In light of JoJo dropping three new singles this month, I was feeling nostalgic about her first single, “Get Out,” and it made me think about how we use social media to delete people out of our lives.
We ALL have been unfollowed and at one point or another, it has bothered us. Maybe, like me, you used that fun online app that literally tells you who unfollowed you – confidence booster! It makes you feel pretty badly, causes exciting opportunities for social tension and can leave you second guessing yourself.
But why do people really click that button? I mean, it’s there for a reason so I guess the creators knew people were bound to get pissed enough to delete each other, and today, I think I have finally cracked the case.
People unfollow each other for a ton of reasons. Maybe it’s because they wake up and realize that this person has bothered them so relentlessly that they literally cannot take another picture/post/status or update from them. Perhaps it’s jealousy, a fight, or just general annoyance, but what are the triggers that lead up to clicking the button?
I don’t know yours, but here are mine:
1.You keep showcasing things that are literally impossible for myself to achieive
This seems petty and that’s because it is, but I’m still guilty of unfollowing Kylie Jenner because her posts straight up depress me. I’d be kidding myself if I ever think I’m going to have a $325,000 vehicle or own a private jet. I could sell all of my organs on the black market and still not have enough money to have any of that.
2. You keep posting things that are super irrelevant or TMI
It’s super sad that your hamster died and my condolences are certainly with you and your family during this difficult time, but can you stop posting pictures of your small mammal on the newsfeed?
On the other hand maybe you caught your significant other cheating on you, this is actually really sad and I do sympathize because that sucks. However, please don’t make raging statuses about it. Your private life is supposed to be just that – private.
3. You’re like, really pretty.
Being petty again but at least I admit it. I don’t really like to follow celebrities, models and all that stuff because they honestly make me feel like I’m failing for not being that ~hot~
So I suppose it’s a combination of jealousy mixed with annoyance that I will never look that way and I don’t want to be reminded of it.
4. You give me ANXIETY
Maybe you were socially exiled by your high school/college friends, or are going through a bad break up. The last thing you want is a reminder of all the fun you weren’t invited to join in on or who your ex-boyfriend is now having sex with. Both of these things induce anxiety and I like to opt out of that whenever possible. #strategic
It’s hard to be living in an era where we are surrounded by media that generally makes us feel like we are unworthy. It does seem silly to be upset or even affected by this, but this is a reality.
When we are constantly shown ideas that are well beyond our reach, it’s disheartening. No one wants to be reminded of the fact that they’re not a model, not as pretty, rich, or successful.
We don’t want to be made to feel like we are failing, thus we simply click “unfollow.”