I Don’t Care About ‘Cool,’ I’d Rather Be Real

The idea of cool is one that we’ve been chasing since forever, and it’s probably not going to stop any time soon. Advertisers, marketers and all businesses thrive and deliver based on what we deem ‘cool.’ There are actually real jobs out there entitled, Cool Hunters. I’m serious, Google it.

But what is cool? I honestly have no idea anymore.

In middle school, ‘cool’ was simple. Cool was wearing Abercrombie and Juicy Couture. In high school, cool was drinking with the older kids and getting away with it. In college, maybe ‘cool’ is Greek life, or sports or whatever. What is it now in this strange and uncharted territory that is also known as Adulthood? All I know is, it’s no longer black and white.

The idea of cool is something I don’t think I can figure out. It seems to always be what’s “trending” but if being cool means being apart of what’s trending, then I want nothing to do with it. Most of the time, what’s trending isn’t necessarily good.

Let’s take a closer look here, shall we?

What’s popular on Instagram? Naked bodies, and mostly people exploiting themselves. What’s popular on Twitter? People participating in degrading conversations regarding gender and sexuality. What’s popular on TV? People who couldn’t tell you what’s going on in Syria, Europe or even in their own backyards.

This is not to say that all social media platforms are completely made up of the above. With every rule comes an exception and undoubtedly, there are a ton of awesome people/brands/ideas that exist. My point here is that it can sometimes seem like the negatives or most superficial things in life are deemed the “coolest.” This is where we get led way off track.

Many of the ideas and people I’m referring to reinforce the idea that being hot, overly-sexual, rude, racist, sexist, rich and so on, is the only way to identify or appear as cool. Perhaps ‘cool’ is what the majority are following.

I think many of us (or at least I’m hoping) are at the point in our lives where being cool actually seems like it takes way too much effort, and comes with very little benefits besides an obscene amount of likes/followers. So, I will happily sit this one out and pass. If being completely superficial and ignorant is what most people think is awesome, I want nothing to do with it. (Unfortunately, my high school self would have jumped on this superficial train faster than you can say BAE).

But times have changed, and so have I. SO here’s why I don’t care about being cool; I’d rather be real:

I may not be able to win Miss America, but I’m funny as hell.

I may not know the hottest clubs but at least I can tell you what’s going on in the Middle East

I may not have the best reputation but at least I speak my mind

I may not be filthy rich but at least I’m happy

I may not have the “hottest” body but I can teach you something new about the world

I may not have a table at that club, but at least my friends actually like me

You may have unlimited access to your parent’s funds, but I know the value of hard work

You may have more “likes” on your Instagram picture, but I enjoyed my time instead of photographing it

You may make people laugh with sexist and racial slurs, but you really must hate yourself

Your parents may have pulled strings for your job, but I earned mine the hard way

You may have more “followers” but I have more fun

If you base your whole life around what is or isn’t cool, are you actually living it? It would seem that you’re just becoming another statistic, another like, follow, and retweet.

Wouldn’t you rather actually do whatever you enjoyed instead of feeling the need to brag about it? Chasing the idea of “cool” is how we lose ourselves and stop being real.

Thinking Out Loud: Stop Offering Me Your Post-Grad Advice

You’re all thinking it, so I’ll just say it: Can everyone stop asking all of us what we’re doing with our lives next year? To say it’s annoying is a very large understatement. When I’m not listening to everyone in my classes trigger their own panic attacks, I’m listening to older people try to give me one.

First of all, you are going to get a job. Sure, maybe it’s not going to be your DREAM JOB but you’re going to get one. Secondly, freaking out is solving and doing nothing (like, literally). I’m not sure why other people are so concerned with my life choices, because up until this point I think I’ve done pretty well for myself.

If you’re not my parents, can you please stop telling me what I “SHOULD” be doing? Did you write a manual or guide for this sort of thing? Did you create a “Job Searching For Dummies,” book? My guess is NO. So please refrain from offering me your anxiety and advice.

I’m not sure what it is about hearing this phrase, “This is my _________ and she/he is graduating this year,” but this statement really triggers people’s protective instincts along with a side of cynicism. Here are all the phrases people who barely know me have offered:

1. You should apply to everything and anything. You don’t get to be picky.
Yeah, I should definitely apply to things that don’t interest me, I’m not qualified for and wouldn’t be a good fit for. This makes sense to me, that is helpful.

2. You’re going to have a really hard time…
These people are clearly the psychics of the world. They’re giving out free readings!!

3. You’re traveling after? Shouldn’t you be joining the real world?
I’m sorry, does getting on an airplane to travel to another country constitute as leaving this planet and entering a different dimension? My bad, I guess I need more than a passport now.

4. Oh….are you sure you want to do that?
Uh…am I sure I want to be happy and pursue a dream? Yup, 100% positive but thanks for your kind words of discouragement. You rock, man!

5. You haven’t started applying yet? Not a good move.
OH, sorry! Did you have some unspoken, invisible deadline I was supposed to meet even though we met five minutes ago?

6. That doesn’t pay very well….
Right, because happiness = money. I always forget, lol!

I just don’t understand why people who are not my parents or close loved ones, care so much about what I’m doing? I got this far didn’t I? You certainly did not pay for my college education or overall existence; was there some hidden investment that went down or some ulterior motives you had in mind for me? I get that people might be trying to offer advice but come on, you don’t have to be discouraging about it.

Maybe we don’t get to be the pickiest when it comes to jobs but we at least get to have a say. We know we want to be passionate, interested and excited about something before getting involved and I think that’s completely fair. The only stranger who’s allowed to offer me their life advice is Ed Sheeran because he literally can’t stop thinking out loud. So if you’re not him, bye!

13 Things You’re Way Too Old To Be Doing In Your Twenties

If you’re reading this, let’s hope it’s not too late.

We all have those friends or maybe it’s even you, that just cannot get it together. No matter how much advice or encouragement you try to offer it just does not register that they need to seriously re-evaluate their priorities.

Watching them can sometimes feel like the equivalent of watching an 8th grader; it’s painful and you’re embarrassed to be associated with it.

If you’re a senior in college or older, I sincerely hope most of you have outgrown the tragic habits of the past. However, it seems some people just can’t shake it off. These habits enrage me because I was always taught to have it together, or at least do a good job of pretending. If you’re doing any of the following, please comment and I can definitely offer some suggestions of some excellent mental health clinicians.

1. Abbreviating EVERYTHING

PLEASE STOP THIS. No, really. Please stop. This is so painful for everyone who is forced to be around you. “OMG, that’s gorg.” It’s gorgeous, not gorg. When you say gorg it makes me think you’re referring to those over-sized vegetables or a monster.


“Obvi” instead of obviously. What is not obvious to me is why you’re using this word. It honestly kind of sounds like you’re about to say ovulation and then realize it’s awkward and stop.

2. Talking Badly About Best Friends

Hello! This is a reminder that you graduated middle school a very, very long time ago and this behavior is not acceptable. You have a problem with a friend? Talk to them about it. Calling them a list of your abbreviated mean names solves nothing. You don’t like a friend anymore? Stop being friends with them. There, problem solved.

3. Subtweeting Or Making Snide Remarks Via Social Media

There is nothing that is scarier than a person who takes to social media to try and act like a tough guy. You just look like you’re not sure how to construct a well-rounded argument. Hop off.

4. Throwing Up From Drinking

We have all had our nights, and we will still continue to have our fun but let’s do so responsibly. Yes, sometimes it’s just the wrong combo of food and drinks, or maybe you were 16 and took a whole bottle to the face behind a 7/11, but most of the time you are completely in control of how your body reacts to alcohol.

You’ve been drinking for years. You know your limits. Stop pushing them. It’s not funny anymore to be the friend puking at the bar. It’s straight up embarrassing and concerning.

5. Getting Mad At Your One-Night Stands

You know what a booty call is. You know what a casual hook up is. Please stop acting surprised when the guy you met at the sleazy bar does not call you back or suggest an evening out on the town.

Hence the “one night” in one-night stand.

6. Being Dirty

Please do your laundry and change your sheets at least once a month. Your mother would be appalled if she saw how much you don’t clean. Don’t be gross.

7. Getting High Before Important Events

If you wanna smoke that is your prerogative, but getting high before job interviews, tests or family affairs is just not okay. You’re at the point in your life where people expect to have engaging interactions with you, not just talk to a glazed over version of yourself.

8. Yelling Indoors

Shhhhh. Inside voices, guys! If you’re still screaming like an angry five year old when you’re sober and/or drunk, stop it. You’re bothering legitimately everyone.

9. Not Cleaning Up After Yourself

The amount of times my mom yelled at me to put dishes in the dishwasher is haunting and I will never forget. She was also right. Leaving dirty dishes out and letting trash pile up attracts BUGS and RATS. I’m taking a shot in the dark here, but I’m assuming you don’t like rodents and bugs so clean up. The only maid service you can afford right now is yourself.

10. Using Your Parents Credit Card

If you’re working a full time job and still charging your Uber’s on your parent’s card, you and your parents need an intervention to be scheduled.

11. Losing Cell Phones

This was funny when it happened freshman or sophomore year of college, but now you just look like a hot mess. iPhones are not cheap and you can’t justify this with, “my parents will just get me another one.” No, no they will not.

Don’t drop your phone in the toilet, leave it in a cab, or forget it at the bar. Just hold on to it.

12. Eating Poorly

Your body can only handle so many preservatives and artificial crap for so long before you actually become malnourished. Ramen noodles and PB&J sandwiches may have been fine alternatives for dinner a few years ago but now your body desperately needs vegetables, fruits and oh yeah, vitamins.

13. Spending over $100 at the bar.

If you know you can’t afford it, don’t do it. Buying people drinks is impressive in the moment. What won’t be impressive is your negative balance the next AM.

Turn Down For What? Just Put Down Your F*cking Phone

The influx of technology in our society will only keep growing, and with it, so will my concerns for not only our generation, but for everyone.

When the first cell phone appeared in 1973 things changed forever. Motorola introduced this gadget that would revolutionize communication. We went from bulky-phones with antennas to tiny-sleek gadgets that fit in our pockets. Our ability to stay and keep in touch has certainly come along way. When we say that we have “progressed” this may not necessarily be a good thing.

Yes, our phones are trendy, fast, and can do what was once thought impossible. However, our experiences and memories are certainly NOT progressing in a positive way. Do not confuse this idea of progression. I have watched both myself and everyone around me pass up real life experiences to observe a “life” in a virtual reality.

While you’re busy swiping right on Tinder, deciding on an Instagram filter, or Snapchatting your food, you’re missing out on everything that actually exists. Nothing that you use your phone for is living; it’s all just one big way to BROWSE.

We are missing out on laughing, getting to know someone new or falling in love because we just HAVE TO BROWSE. You just have to refresh that app, or answer this email, or text back real fast. PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE.

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This is a reality check; a wake up call, if you will. We are all falling victim to a reality that does not exist and simultaneously having less human experiences.

Liking someone’s photograph is not interacting and it will not make you best friends; talking to people, getting to know them, and learning new things will form friendships.

Getting the most followers does not mean you’re popular; the idea of you is. Unless you’re walking around with a full on entourage of 1.1 million people, you’re not actually popular.

Look around you at any time and at any point in the day; all you will see is people with their phone’s glued to their hands and their eyes glued to their screens. When did we swap our souls for screens, and will we ever actually acknowledge that this is what has happened?

Whether you’re believing it or not, it has happened. This is most likely you, and you’re only letting yourself miss out. I can’t tell you the amount of times I ask someone a question multiple times, to receive NO response because they’re answering a text.

Your phone has the ability to be “paused.” You can hit stop on virtual reality, but real life? Not so much.

Every click, swipe, like, and push you do in the middle of real-time interactions is bringing you one step closer to being a robot and one step further from being a human. I’ve seen enough sci-fi movies to know I have no desire to be a robot nor watch the entire human race become an army of mechanical monsters.

Put down your fucking phone.

Stupidity & Snow: Winter Makes The Worst Driver Even Worse

Most people are already really terrible drivers, and the snow only proceeds to multiply their already poor motor vehicle skills. If you’ve ever been to or driven in a city, you know it’s not a good time. If you’ve ever driven in Boston, Massachusetts you would know that driving during the winter is like a version of the hunger games on wheels. No one is safe.

After getting over my initial fear of parallel parking here, I was pretty confident about driving, but seriously how many people parallel parked after their driver’s test? Certainly not me.

I am not exaggerating when I say that practically every time I take my car out to go to work, I avoid an accident. The best part about this is, it’s usually not my fault but the other person gets mad at ME. Haha, okay that makes sense.

It’s pretty evident when you almost cause someone to have a head on collision, so don’t think that you getting all huffy and puffy even makes me forget for a second that you’re a certified moron. People here seem to think that the rules of the road simply don’t apply to them. I’m not sure if they have truly convinced themselves of this or if they got some special document in the mail.

Either way, people here can’t drive for crap. Apparently the following is all okay to do:

Not Use A Blinker – Because why would I need to know what way you’re trying to turn? That’s so silly of me. What ridiculously high expectations of me to have. I don’t need to know if you want to merge in front of me, you should just do it. There’s a very, very low chance that you’ll get your car hit. Sorry about that!!

Not Stopping At Stop Signs – I was such a young, naive fool! It makes a great deal of sense that you would just shoot right through the intersection. Trains? Hahah, there haven’t ever been any train accidents because of cars ever. Pedestrians? They’re mind readers! They’ll know you’re running the sign, no biggie!

Running Red Lights – Red lights don’t apply to city drivers; they’re too cool for those bad boys. In fact, red lights are really unfair to you, I totally get that. Why should you have to stop for other cars, that’s insane. It’s ludicrous that we would want to direct traffic.

Getting Pissed At Traffic – Okay, this one isn’t so much a legal issue, but still interesting. You are backed up for miles, but I think beeping your horn over and over and over again will really get things moving! 45 minutes of traffic? Nothing a little horn beeping won’t fix. People have so much room to move, how ridiculous.

Aside from this, I have fallen victim to being blamed for the weather. Yes, that’s right. Other drivers actually seem to believe that I have made precipitation occur. When you’re driving down a street that now looks like half of a one-way, it’s slightly difficult for two cars to pass. So if you see someone coming, wait your turn.

However, other people believe they don’t do the whole waiting turns thing and instead, just come barreling through the road. Then they act so bewildered that they cannot pass. It’s actually my fault though, I made this weather happen just for kicks.

The other driver will proceed to flip me off, and scream. I’ve found it best to just laugh while making direct eye contact, until they accept defeat and reverse. By the way, if I could make it snow two feet, I sure as hell would not be getting a Bachelor’s and driving around with the likes of you peasants.

Drive safe everyone!

The Narcissism Filter: We’re Obsessed With Ourselves & It’s Ruining Us

It’s hard to imagine our lives without iPhones, laptops and so on. We’ve been accustomed to technology and grown up in an incredibly innovative technological age. We’re apart of history, but maybe not for the best reasons.

The minds behind the amazing gadgets we rely on so heavily are amazing. The fact that people were able to bring apps, programming and software this far is amazing, but what have we done?

Sure, we know how to use all apps and programs, but aside from that what do we contribute? The answer is relatively nothing of substance. We upload pretty pictures and pray for a certain number of likes. We blast things into cyber space solely for the reason of receiving a response from our friends in the digital world.

All (most) of us do is document our lives, and then compare and contrast it with everyone else’s. This not only is a gigantic waste of time, it’s also really unhealthy.

If you open up your phone right now here’s what you’ll see.


  • Selfies of people making faces that indicate that they tried to take that picture at least 15+ times and means, “Look at me, I’m pretty!”
  • People’s food which says, “Look how fit I am,” “Look how good this is,” or “Look how badly I eat.” Usually it just means, I’m eating this and you’re jealous.
  • People going out which says, “Look at me in this sexual outfit,” “Look at me and my friends drinking, we’re so cool,” or “I’m out and you’re not, have some FOMO.”


People use Twitter to do two things: whine/complain about their lives and brag about their lives. Unless you’re a news source, then you’re actually just sharing the news.

We’re all guilty of it, though.

  • “Just got into graduate school #gome”
  • “Everyone is dumb #exceptforme”
  • “Omg landed my dream job #bejealousofme”

We have become a “me” oriented culture. It’s all about one-upping everyone else and it creates a lot of unnecessary competition. What are we competing for? The most likes? Newsflash everyone, likes aren’t a real thing. It’s not legitimate feedback or praise. There is no substance of any kind behind a “like.”  If someone actually thought what you were doing was innovative, awesome, or changing the world, they’d tell you to your face.

Clicking a “Follow” or “Like” button is as easy as blinking. It legitimately takes zero effort, and here we are priding ourselves on our followers and compliments that have never been spoken, just typed along in passing.

It’s crazy to me that marketing and PR have become based around clicks and shares because in reality none of it is really real. It’s all manufactured. Sure, the advertising is generating money and that is certainly real, but at the end of the day it’s all a superficial, made up game. Digital “likes” do not equate with people actually liking you. It symbolizes all the people who view your images, tweets, status etc. and want to compete with you.

If we were less self-obsessed and focusing on larger world issues maybe we could use our social media skills to benefit the human race, rather than our own personal social standing.

Just some food for thought.

New York, I’m Not Coming For You: NYC Might Not Be The “Best”

Disclosure: I’m from Westchester, so 45 minutes outside Manhattan. Yes, I acknowledge I’m not from Manhattan, but have frequented it A LOT in my 21 – going on 22 – years of living. Pretty much every person I know cannot wait to graduate college and move back there, but I honestly don’t see the incentive.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m proud of where I came from. Westchester is bestchester, right? I enjoyed where I grew up for the most part and it was nice to have NYC pretty close by. New York is great for visiting but I would never want to live there, or at least not at this point in my life. Wait…did you guys just hear that? I think I heard the heart of 100,000 Westchester girls just stop beating.

“How can you not want to live in NYC!?” “NYC IS THE BEST!!” “I’LL ONLY LIVE IN NYC, NO WHERE ELSE.” That’s awesome if you’re dead set on NY, but there’s just a part of me, okay mostly all of me, that would break down in sobs if I had to settle there permanently. If I could land my dream writing job, I’d stay.

NYC has a ton to offer: clubbing, restaurants, theater, arts, sciences etc. You name it, New York has it. What NYC is lacking is one very important component of our lives: affordability. Now, my parents don’t plan on paying my rent for the next five years of my life, unlike so many of my fellow classmates whose parents will continue supporting them.

So, I would be burdened with paying $1300-$1500 a month (This is an estimate, not a fact. Please don’t come attacking me about statistics, I’m not interested) to live with 2 or 3 other people.

Ummmmmm. No, thank you. I decline.

Your room is likely the size of a large box, and your kitchen is the size of two. Your bathroom is cramped, and you can barely get enough time in there between you and your two other roommates. Not to mention, food is exponentially more expensive there. Before you jump down my throat and think about killing me in my sleep, hear me out.

I look at NYC like this: hyped up. Celebrities are singing about it, movies are filmed there and fashion shows take place there. It’s glamorized, but hey, so is teen pregnancy, so just let that sink in for sec.

There are thousands of other places we can live in that are just as great and way more affordable. Why should we break our newly formed banks accounts for this place when we have a million other options that are equally great?

Yet, people are so obsessed with NY and why? Plain and simple because it’s “cool” to live in NY. I bet you most people, not at all, are only interested in living there so they can say they live there. This is not a valid reason to relocate, everyone. Job opportunities, dreams and family are reasons to relocate.

People’s jaws drop when I tell them I’m considering Dallas, Atlanta, Miami and so on. They just, “literally can’t even imagine!” Okay, well I can.

Don’t get me wrong, if I had money to blow, I would be all about NYC, but not as a newly graduated person who’s making an entry level starting salary. When I’m rich, I could live there. There’s no bang for your buck at this point in time. Please don’t try and convince me that your 45k salary really has you thriving in that environment. You’re a liar.

I don’t need to live there just so I can change my “Current City” on Facebook to Manhattan. That’s for pretentious people and those trying to overcompensate for self-esteem.

If your industry thrives in NYC then hell yeah, get your butt over there because sometimes you have no other choice, and you have to be there to do what you love. But, if you’re moving there because you think it’s cool or because everyone else is doing it, you might want to ask yourself if you successfully graduated middle school.

If you haven’t, check out the NYTimes October piece about where college grads are moving INSTEAD of NY. Here’s the link: NY has some competition

#WCW: Women Crush Wednesday Has Gotten Weird

Okay, you all have seen it or done it (but I really hope you haven’t). I don’t know, there’s just something so fake about about posting pictures of people we don’t know and claiming they’re our “role model.”

The only people who care that Taylor Swift, Miley Cyrus or Sofia Vergara is your “WCW” is absolutely no one. No one cares that this is your role model and yeah, it’s harsh, but it’s also true.

Telling people about who you admire is only cool and listened to if you’re actually famous, which if you’re reading this blog, you’re probably not.

I think it’s nice to have role models or individuals we aspire to be like. For example, I admire Tina Fey and Chelsea Handler, but you know what? No one cares, and if you’re anything like me, you’re very vain about your Instagram following. So I don’t post about it because I don’t want to lose more followers than I already do on a regular basis.

When I don’t see people posting pictures of celebrities they don’t know, I see men posting pictures of their girlfriends on Wednesdays. I thought we were only supposed to wear pink on Wednesdays, but apparently now we post pictures of our significant others, too. Not feeling that vibe.

It’s super cute the first time you see a guy do it. Maybe he was a giant “player” in high school and you think, “Awww! That’s so sweet, he finally settled down!” But then you start seeing the pictures EVERY Wednesday, and sometimes just every day.

There’s no way I’m the only one who feels really weird about this. It is superb that you have found love in a hopeless place former man-slut, but I really don’t need to see an announcement about it every day of the week.

If you type #WCW into Instagram here are some of the results you get: You get guys instagramming snapchats their girlfriend’s have sent them, a picture of just the guy saying he misses his significant other, or my least favorite, just the girl.

It may have gotten to the point where you feel like you’re following the girlfriend on Instagram even if you’re not. His insta account is pretty much just a shrine to his lover’s existence. This is not cute, it’s creepy and obsessive.

I’m all for Insta-ing me and my boyfriend because well, I obviously think we’re cute. However, I don’t need him to post filtered images of me every day of the week saying how adorable I am. We’re dating, not in middle school. I don’t need you to tell me you have a “crush” on me. I would think he was a psycho. It’s not cute, it’s weird.

So instead of Women Crush Wednesday let’s think, #WCW What Could We…Post Instead. Think about. Please. I beg of you.

The Most Basic NYE Resolutions & What They Really Mean

Every year we hear our friends and family swear that this next year will be different. They make promises to themselves that they will 100% not end up keeping. With 2014 coming to a close this month, you are bound to encounter people you know spewing some of the most repetitive NYE resolution lies. Brace yourselves.

Try not to blatantly laugh in their face when they tell you their goals for the coming year that will only last a week. At least let them think you kind of have some faith in them.

It drives me nuts when I hear people make these objectives for themselves, all the while knowing in 7 days these “goals” will fly right out the window. Just because you can still count backwards from 10, doesn’t mean you’re going to be anymore motivated for life the next day.

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“I’m going to go to the gym more”

Nope, no you are not. Going to the gym for a week straight and then stopping does not constitute you fulfilling this goal.

Realistically, if you wanted to go to the gym more, you already would have been going. Saying you’re going exercise more in the new year is the equivalent of saying, “I’ll start my diet tomorrow,” after you binge eat 5 pounds of carbohydrates and feel sad about yourself.

“I’m going to eat healthier”

Similar to the number of trips to the gym you are NOT going to make, you’re also not going to eat healthier. Don’t shoot the messenger, but you know I’m right. You’ll probably eat healthy for 48 hours after the ball drops, and then resort back to your old ways.

Go ahead and rate my blog 1 star, you’re still not going to live, sleep, eat and breathe wholefoods after this, you’re just not.

“No more one-night stands”

You know that friend who texts you endlessly about how she needs to hook up with someone new every weekend. Yet, the new year suddenly has made her want to be a born-again virgin. This is an interesting epiphany to have on a night that’s supposed to be celebrated by wearing a shirt as a dress and getting wasted.

Undoubtedly, this resolution will also last a week, a month TOPS. Until, she’s right back at it. This is fine, but quit kidding yourself and just do your thing.

“No more drama in my life”

Anyone who ever tells me they hate drama, usually ends up loving drama. If you hate it so much then why are you talking about? If you didn’t want dramatic things to happen then you wouldn’t need to make it a resolution, you’d already be living this lifestyle.

This person will be in a fight with her best friend by the end of the week, and spilling drinks on guys heads the next time she goes out.

Lying to yourself is hard work, so that could kind of count as exercising more, right?

Let Us Eat Cake: The VS Fashion Show Is The Time To Be Happy With Ourselves, Not Depressed

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Tonight is the night, ladies and gentlemen. The night where some of the most beautiful women in the world slap on some angel wings and strut the runway in lingerie.
God damn, they are hot.

I love watching the show, as I’m sure most women and men also do, just maybe for different reasons… Anyway, in light of the show tonight I wanted to draw attention to some really upsetting statements I always see floating around the Internet around this time.

I constantly see women comparing themselves to these models. I think it’s human nature to compare and contrast ourselves but then we move on. There’s no need to harp on the things we cannot change.

So when I see females say things like, “UHHH, they are so hot. I’m NEVER eating again,” or “Gonna go jump off a bridge because I’m not a VS angel,” I find this really disturbing. As a woman, I believe we have come a very long way in society. We have come too far to let social constructs determine our eating habits and perception of ourselves.

Come on ladies, please don’t think about yourselves in such a negative light.

However, I do understand it. It’s hard not to think this way when we’re bombarded from every angle about what being “hot” looks like. But, please keep in mind that everything society deems “sexy” or “hot” is for the most part, made up. But brainwashing is a powerful thing – kudos to the media.

I get that their bodies are awesome, and they had to put a lot of work at the gym to get those results. However, there are a lot of things they have to give up to get those bodies.

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There are moments of weakness where I see the male reactions of lust and female reactions of jealousy that make me almost wish I looked like them, but then I snap back to reality and remember I absolutely love candy, carbs and being short. I can hide really easily and no one can find me. This really comes in handy when I want to ditch people quickly.

Additionally, I will never be 5″9′, have big boobs or look like I belong on the cover of Sports Illustrated, and that’s fine by me because I have other things that I’m good at, succeed at, and feel beautiful doing.

Most of Us Will Never Be That Tall

According to the most recent statistic from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention these are the average stats for the American Woman:

Weight: 163 lbs
Height: 5″3′
Waist Circumference: 37.5 inches

The VS models and fashion models in general are preferred to be 5″9 or higher and their weight is usually around the 120ish (lbs) range.

Junk Food Is Amazing

Let us eat cake. No, really. Cake, cupcakes, candy and so forth are amazing. It’s impossible to deny. You can resist it all you want but your salivary glands will cry. I’d rather just have the cake.

It’s Not Our Career
For many models, their body is their career. They have to be healthy, fit and look good in order to get paid. Hats off to them because it does take a lot of self-control and determination. But for the rest of us, our bodies are not our careers, so why are you threatening yourself with cutting out food or beating yourself up for not looking a certain way? It’s pointless.

Enjoy the show and then further appreciate it with food you actually love. Skipping out on sweets and going to the gym 5 times a week still won’t make you 5″9′ or look like models on the cover of Vogue, and there’s nothing wrong with that, either.

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